Some Reasons to Seek Support

Sometimes life changes direction and nothing is like it was before. Or the changes take place almost imperceptibly, accompanied by a vague feeling of discomfort. Some of these changes might be predictable; such as leaving home, getting older, children becoming independent, and the formation of new relationships, retirement, caring for and losing people we love. Many people over 40 often enter a period of drastic internal and / or external changes, leading into some basic questions about the meaning of life:

Did I become in life who I wanted to be in the first place??

How will I fill all the spare time, now that the children are living their own lives?

Will I ever be able to let go the grudge held against my partner for cheating on me?

Must I really take in my (n) (in law), mother / father when old and helpless? I am not even sure if I can handle it, we don't get along that well.

My wife is no longer the same since her illness, as if she suddenly speaks Swahili. What will become of our relationship? 

The new boss is on my back constantly, will I be able to perform up to his expectations? I am really worried about losing my job...

These issues are often accompanied by an inner resistance, and even guilt, to admit such thoughts at all, let alone to others, such as the partner, of friends and relatives. For man / woman has, after all, everything one wants to seem ungrateful. If a person remains in one of these unresolved conflicts for longer, in the worst case it can lead into in the worst case of chronic diseases of all kinds, burnout, loss of vitality, social withdrawal, up to the Depression. Most people would like to retire from such states as quickly as possible, but what could be the first step to take look like anyway?